Freddie deBoer: “That you should never feel guilty is a commonplace in this world; guilt is never an appropriate response to something wrong that you’ve done but always a dysfunction, a failure to see the hidden righteousness in everything you’ve done. But please take a look at the last entry on the first line, ‘Saying No to Others,’ and the second on the second line, ‘Asking For Your Needs to Be Met.’ The immediate question is, what if what one person is saying no to is the other person asking for their needs to be met? What resolves the tie?” (The whole post is excellent.)